To Cope - Part 2

When you accidentally bite your tongue, it's hard to see "pain" as something positive.
The same goes for a blister on your big toe. Who needs a throbbing foot?
But what if you felt no pain? How often would you bite off bits of your tongue - or burn your backside in the bath? Physical pain is a marvelous alarm system that prevents further damage.
It tells us: "You'd better change what you're doing!"
Emotional pain gives us a similar message, eg. "You'd better change how you're thinking!"
It's normal to get angry or jealous or a bit resentful - temporarily ;)
But if those feelings become permanent the message may be:
"Don't expect to control other people."
"Don't expect other people to behave like you."
"Don't depend on other people to make you happy!"
I know some ppl out there go " look who is talking "
But hey I am talking of a CHANGE here!!!
While we keep thinking the same thoughts, we keep feeling the same pain.
(And then we say "But I'm right!" Unfortunately being "right" doesn't help!)
A blister on your foot is a message to change our shoes. With emotional pain, which feels like a blister on the brain, the message is usually to change our thinking.